So I put the ESP on D0, D1 USB Rx Tx lines and grounded reset on the UNO and then typed AT in the "Send" box of serial monitor (at 115200), it comes back with:
AT
OK
and the reset command works great!
AT+RST
And then a whole bunch of interesting info and a little bit of gibberish and then "AI Thinker...."
Then I issued
AT+UART_DEF=9600,8,1,0,3
And it came back with "OK". Then I restarted the ESP and that was the end of that! I can no longer communicate with it? What did I do wrong and is there any way to bring it back? What is flow control? Should I have used a different number for the last parameter?